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February 12, 2023 / philosophermouseofthehedge

Unnecessary roughness

1911 American football game. (USPD,

If it’s not one player, it’s another. Yeah, how far we have come.(1911 American football game.USPD/

The neighborhood consensus is that she’s selling the house off one piece at a time.

Addiction is a horrible thing.

She’s been in and out of rehab 4 or 5 times. Costs add up. All costs. 

The almost new stainless steel fridge was hauled off rocking in protest in the back of a not so new pickup truck. 

How do you live in a house without a refrigerator?

We don’t know. 

When she drives in, she avoids everyone – ducks inside, head down – Says she doesn’t remember who or what she said when to whom. 

Her son and his kid’s room furniture was picked up by her Ex. (Sadly, she previously fought for custody, but, now, this is for the best.) 

Jack, the dog is gone, too. More loss.

She was there for a while. Recently.

Trash cans appeared out front. The neighborhood makes sure the cans are put back up and not blown down the street; the yard gets mowed; and the door to door flyers pulled from the door.

People hesitantly touch base with the social worker, healthcare lady, or her younger sister when there’s a chance. (Always asking “Is there anything …?” Which is always answered with sad shake of the head.) 

And opens the front door when she pounds on it frantically weeping and whacked out of her gourd on drugs, alcohol or a combo at 2 a.m. saying she’s in trouble and can’t stop herself, “Please, please, help me”…and calls EMS for her as she collapses unconscious on the floor.

Another run at rehab. 

Another U-Haul rental loads up assorted pieces of furniture and household goods now and then.

Football player leaping for ball. 1967 (USPD,/

You know how it is. Sometimes no matter how hard you try to keep your eye on the ball, it can always seem just a bit out of reach.(USPD/

There’s a really nice boyfriend who is in love with her. He has continually tried to help her. (“A lost cause. Run,” her former best friend across the street told him.)

Played sports with her son when she couldn’t. Fed the dog. Was always there when she came out “clean” once again.

He’s even stepped up to take responsibility for caring of her 6 month old baby. (The last thing she needed…). Even though the little one may not be his. Other vehicles would pull in after he left. Maybe finally had enough; he’s not been seen for some time. 

Then the lights stopped being on in the house at night. 

Last Thursday a couple of rough looking guys backed their open trailer into her drive.

“They’ve come for the patio furniture and grill,” I said. ‘Super Bowl’s this weekend.”

And that’s what they drove off with.

She’s an unexpected, unintended, collateral casualty.  

Of a very painful and serious injury. Of COVID isolation. Of far too easy to acquire illegal oxytocin and fentanyl on the street once the doc says, “No more.” 

We hope she has landed someplace safe.

The odds are against it.

Addiction is a terrible thing.

Full of unnecessary roughness.

No wining plays this weekend except in Arizona’s State Farm (As in state institution “Funny Farm”? That would be oddly appropriate for these times.) Stadium: a super distraction of gladiator pageantry. Full of sound and fury signifying nothing real.

Phil, the Philosopher Mouse of the Hedge

Goal post in green field (Kidzet/

Have to start somewhere. Trying to put a real human face on this game. A field of dreams with a goal of stopping the flow of illegal drugs across the southern border. Is that asking too much? The cost of human misery is so great.(Kidzet/


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  1. sustainabilitea / Feb 12 2023 5:23 pm

    How sad! I think it’s too easy to isolate ourselves these days. We won’t be watching the Super Bowl as we don’t have cable and don’t get that channel. That’s OK. The drug and border problems are terrible as is the human trafficking associated with the Super Bowl in whatever city it’s located and in the rest of life as well. Thanks for bringing up some difficult issues.

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    • philosophermouseofthehedge / Feb 12 2023 5:56 pm

      Houston is a major crossroad for cartel’s human trafficking and drug movement. Super Bowl is a major event with buyers of all things (along with the NBA Final Four and other events).
      The human tragedy doesn’t touch a lot of people…until it does.
      She was the hardworking single mom with the pony tail hanging out her baseball cap as she played baseball in the street and drove multiple kids to soccer and swim team. One would never imagine whaat was crossing her path.
      Just one story of many.
      Hard to really feel yah yah for multi-million producing sports…big business which also gets federal taxpayer money. Lots of lip service and virtue signaling. That’s entertainment (with blinders on)
      Homelessness, addiction, mental health needs – and where does the money and focus end up? Priorities are so odd.
      Good time to walk the dog – nice and quiet on the streets
      Thanks for tossing aa comment down this field


  2. disperser / Feb 12 2023 5:52 pm

    Having had some experience with trying to help someone (various issues), I’ve learned that sometimes there’s nothing to be done but let things run their course while helping as best and reasonably as possible.

    But, yes, sad to see. Lots of misery in the world, some of it self-inflicted.

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    • philosophermouseofthehedge / Feb 12 2023 6:04 pm

      Definitely agree with you. Seen far too many. One of the most brilliant mathematical minds I knew at university took one too many trips “for enlightenment”…last I heard he was a grocery store bagger in a small town. Life is hard enough without scrambling brains
      Her parents apparently are left with “tough love” response at this point. Difficult situation all around.
      Thanks for running by with a comment

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  3. SusanR / Feb 12 2023 5:56 pm

    That goalpost … such a high bar to get over when you’re down and out.

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    • philosophermouseofthehedge / Feb 12 2023 6:12 pm

      All I can see is that long blond ponytail out her baseball cap as she was trying to teach her kid how to play baseball in the front yard. These drugs are so addictive so fast. Took down a productive person – and it’s not an isolated story.
      A little teamwork – with a strong, experienced, knowledgeable coach in charge makes a difference in any game. Time for recruiting. And refocus on taking care of our own citizens – obviously there’s much to be done in many areas here.
      Thanks for noting that overwhelming goalpost


  4. shoreacres / Feb 12 2023 6:00 pm

    There are too many people with too much invested in minimizing these problems. I honestly thought that after the last election we’d have some people in place willing to begin dealing with such things as border issues: not only illegal immigration, per se, but also the ability of the cartels and foreign operatives to make use of our porous border. The individual tragedies are piling up. Whether our nation will be willing to take steps to begin rooting out at least some of the causes seems unlikely. We’d rather watch the game and chatter about the latest distraction dangled in front of us.

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  5. easyweimaraner / Feb 13 2023 2:11 am

    what a sad story…an sadly there are too much of this she’s … we all know one… sigh…

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  6. Cecilia Mary Gunther / Feb 13 2023 6:59 am

    Oh no.

    I saw this happen with a friends daughter – married to a cool guy – kids – had an accident got addicted to the pain meds – etc etc – her mum had to take the kids – not that she minded but after a number of years the daughter (last i heard) was clean and visiting with the kids – I think family had a huge part to play in her recovery.

    So real Mouse, thank you for sharing this.


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  7. Kate Crimmins / Feb 13 2023 8:01 am

    I’ve gone through this with a friend. Nothing you can do but be sad about it as you watch their life fall down around them. Rehabs are a long shot. Takes many tries and sometimes it just doesn’t work.

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  8. Curt Mekemson / Feb 13 2023 1:09 pm

    Very sad tale which you did a great job of capturing. Thank you. Addiction can be pure hell. The drug cartels do their part, for sure. But the American drug companies, pharmacies, and medical professionals who lose sight of the purpose of the powerful drugs they disperse for legitimate pain and start to see them as a bottom line opportunity to increase profits are equally to blame, if not more so, because they bury their guilt under ‘doing good.’

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    • philosophermouseofthehedge / Feb 13 2023 5:55 pm

      I wish they would ban all media advertisements for drugs and treatments – the TV commercials are so pretty and promise so much…just don’t try to read the fine print…
      Sometimes life hurts a bit – better to encourage people to just gut it up if possible rather than risk worse.
      These 2 “new” weight loss/diabetic drugs are effective, but once the meds are stopped, most patients regain what they loss if behavior/diet doesn’t change…while obesity is epidemic, one doc wisely pointed out, some feel these should be “subscription” life long meds – like vitamins – even while long term effects are not known yet…the idea of putting children on these for life really shouldn’t be considered. “Put the cake and cookies down!” instead.
      Thanks for pointing out reality and prescribing caution


      • Curt Mekemson / Feb 14 2023 2:34 pm

        I’m with you on both the advertising and the dieting. People need to take responsibility for their health as much as humanly possible.

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  9. The Coastal Crone / Feb 13 2023 4:15 pm

    It is difficult to see someone heading downward and can’t help them. Too often children are involved. We didn’t watch the Super Bowl – glad it is over. I think I watched the first one. Take care!

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